Have you ever had someone who loved you so much but you were afraid? You were afraid of falling because you don’t want to hurt them or worse you don’t want them to hurt you? Or are you afraid of taking the chance because in all actuality it’s not what you want? You don’t want to go way down the line and boom it fails. Boom you have to start over.. boom you have to feel that pain again. You ask yourself is it really worth it. You ask is it worth taking the chance. You don’t see the bigger picture.
My biggest issue.
My biggest issue is dealing with a guy and he doesn’t have a plan, doesn’t have goals, doesn’t have a sense of direction, or leadership skills… no I’m not a gold digger and I don’t look to guys for what they have, I look to a guy because I see something in him, however if he is playing around with his life, doesn’t know how to lead properly, doesn’t have a sense of direction, then I’m not gonna be so eager following him. I’m gonna have questions and I’m gonna be a little fearful of his steps. Two lost people can’t help each other, in my opinion. How are we both lost and looking for each other for direction? I don’t mind supporting my guy, being there for him, nurturing him, etc… but he has to give me reason to submit, he has to have that quality of leadership. If you can’t lead yourself, how are you gonna lead me?
That’s so shallow: some people will say my thinking is shallow but honestly I’m not in the business of caring these days. How can one expect me to be so eager to just follow him and he’s still doing things that a child would do? How does one expect me to have children with them and they’re not showing me that they’re worthy or even well responsible to take care of himself? Excuse me if I may sound a little arrogant or too blunt or judge-mental… but a women naturally submits to a man whom she trust to lead. Most of these guys don’t have anything going for themselves and want to leach off the women and vice versa. Thank God I’m no materialistic type of chick, however can you blame the women who refuses to date a man without sufficient funds? Can you blame her for not taking a guy serious if he doesn’t have anything going? Can you blame a women for not wanting to commit to a man who has been dogging her out for years? I can’t because if he can’t provide for himself, how is he gonna provide for his family?
These are things I look at: I look at these things because they are important, no women wants to be with a man she has to raise and no man wants to be with a women he has to raise. Yes support them, however at some point in life that man is gonna have to step up and take care of business. I saw this post circulating around saying- if a man doesn’t change his ways for you then you’re not the women for him… who all agrees? If you tell a man that something is bothering you and he sees that it’s hurting you and you do everything in your power to try and help him and he still doesn’t change, I won’t say you’re not the one— however you may not be. If a man doesn’t feel afraid to lose you and doesn’t correct his behavior to have you, then sweetie my love… you’re not the one.
All I’m saying is… I cannot just follow behind someone who doesn’t have direction, who doesn’t have goals, and who is not serious about life- have fun, yeah! But if you’re not serious about your goals and tryna progress I cannot and I refuse to be with you. It’s too much, however if someone really wanted to be with you they will do everything in their power to make sure you guys are good and you guys are stable and that you’re content with everything you guys got going on.
Conclusion- I will ride with my man regardless of what he has, however if he isn’t making the necessary steps to keep himself up, showing respect, taking responsibility for his actions, making the necessary steps to change and grow, and have decent manners, and wants something out of life, while tackling his goals- I can’t take him serious. A women naturally submits to a man in which she trust to lead.
My belief and at its core is- THE MAN SHOULD BE THE PROVIDER! He has to provide, he has to take care of the bills and the home problems such as plumbing, car issues, etc – don’t get me wrong a women can help go 50/50 if she wants, however that’s the mans job, he should be the sole provider.. a man doesn’t feel like a man if he can’t provide- right or right? All I’m saying is provide, protect, lead! The rest will follow naturally especially from the women— she will be happy to cook, happy to clean, happy to have sex, if she knows she’s appreciated and she has a man that’s willing and ready to lead, learn, and grow! Guys get mad at you because you don’t want to ride with them while they don’t have anything and when they get everything, they go to the women who only wants him for his money and spoils her and dog the chick who has been there, so if a women doesn’t wanna stay down then so what… a women is not obligated to stay down until you come up- she can! But she’s not obligated. That’s just my take on it. Hate it or love it-
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