Making moves ~

There’s a life that is more powerful than you can imagine. There are so many doors waiting to be open for you. Are you ready for your new? New opportunities, new doors are being opened for you. New money. New mindset. New dreams. New visions. New location. New hope. A renewed heart. It’s all coming for you. It’s all on the way for you! There’s nothing you can’t have in this lifetime and everything you want and desire is on its way to you now. GET READY!!!! It’s coming faster than you think!!!! Everything is gonna work out! That new weight you want. Those new partnerships, that new mindset, that new house/apartment!!! That new confidence!! It’s coming!!! It’s on its way!!!! It’s coming so rapidly that you’re not gonna believe it’s possible to even phantom.

Stay encouraged ‼️ it’s coming. Stay positive in your mindset and believe you deserve the absolute best and greater in this lifetime. Keep your head up!!! Its all working out for you now.💕💕💕💕

The comeback kid.

Things happen in life that don’t always makes sense. You lose your job, lose a family member or a friend, you come out of bad relationships, car problems happen. Now you’re stuck trying to figure out what to do next. You create so many goals for yourself so you can elevate and so you can grow and once the devil knows that, he’s gonna try and attack all you have. As if you haven’t dealt with enough. Things happen tho. How to comeback is the question. How do you re-gather yourself and continue to fight for what you want?

It’s a lot to deal with but I believe it’s gonna be a light at the end of the tunnel. Wanna know why? Cause we are comeback children and we have God. God don’t let us deal with more than we can handle. God will use the very thing you thought was gonna take you out, to elevate you! If I don’t have anything else during this time, I have my faith and I believe my faith will take me where I need to go. It’s all I have. When everyone and everything else disappoints me, uses me , drains me , hurts me… I have my faith. I need to have something to believe in, if not I feel like I’ll fall for anything. Even though it’s hard, I don’t believe it’s over just yet. I believe there is so much more greatness in life that I have to see. I haven’t fully seen all that God has for me and you haven’t either. You will comeback from all setbacks, all naysayers , you will make it because it was written and because you have so much more calling your name.

Everything will work out. Everything will make sense again. It’s not over yet! It’s only over when you give up! Keep going, keep believing, know that the sun will shine again. You will comeback no matter what !!!

How to cope with loses:

-show gratitude for what you do have.

-take it as a better door or opportunity being open for you.

-understand the L’s create a new strength in you that will also create a stronger mind, create a stronger heart.

Everything happens for a reason just have to keep it pushing and elevating !! Create goals-tackle them! Surround yourself around the people who want to see you elevate and win!!! Let go of what no longer serves you, so you have nothing hindering you from your greater. Everyone has taken a lose every now and then. Bounce back, heal from it, don’t dwell on it or you’ll just let it consume you to the core. Stay patient and trust the process. It’s gonna work out!! Everything will be okay. You will win !!!

Stay up! Stay strong! Keep your head up and don’t give up 💕💕 YOUR TIME IS COMING ❤️❤️❤️❤️

My heart won’t allow it. (Good READ!)

Have you ever had someone who loved you so much but you were afraid? You were afraid of falling because you don’t want to hurt them or worse you don’t want them to hurt you? Or are you afraid of taking the chance because in all actuality it’s not what you want? You don’t want to go way down the line and boom it fails. Boom you have to start over.. boom you have to feel that pain again. You ask yourself is it really worth it. You ask is it worth taking the chance. You don’t see the bigger picture.

My biggest issue.

My biggest issue is dealing with a guy and he doesn’t have a plan, doesn’t have goals, doesn’t have a sense of direction, or leadership skills… no I’m not a gold digger and I don’t look to guys for what they have, I look to a guy because I see something in him, however if he is playing around with his life, doesn’t know how to lead properly, doesn’t have a sense of direction, then I’m not gonna be so eager following him. I’m gonna have questions and I’m gonna be a little fearful of his steps. Two lost people can’t help each other, in my opinion. How are we both lost and looking for each other for direction? I don’t mind supporting my guy, being there for him, nurturing him, etc… but he has to give me reason to submit, he has to have that quality of leadership. If you can’t lead yourself, how are you gonna lead me?

That’s so shallow: some people will say my thinking is shallow but honestly I’m not in the business of caring these days. How can one expect me to be so eager to just follow him and he’s still doing things that a child would do? How does one expect me to have children with them and they’re not showing me that they’re worthy or even well responsible to take care of himself? Excuse me if I may sound a little arrogant or too blunt or judge-mental… but a women naturally submits to a man whom she trust to lead. Most of these guys don’t have anything going for themselves and want to leach off the women and vice versa. Thank God I’m no materialistic type of chick, however can you blame the women who refuses to date a man without sufficient funds? Can you blame her for not taking a guy serious if he doesn’t have anything going? Can you blame a women for not wanting to commit to a man who has been dogging her out for years? I can’t because if he can’t provide for himself, how is he gonna provide for his family?

These are things I look at: I look at these things because they are important, no women wants to be with a man she has to raise and no man wants to be with a women he has to raise. Yes support them, however at some point in life that man is gonna have to step up and take care of business. I saw this post circulating around saying- if a man doesn’t change his ways for you then you’re not the women for him… who all agrees? If you tell a man that something is bothering you and he sees that it’s hurting you and you do everything in your power to try and help him and he still doesn’t change, I won’t say you’re not the one— however you may not be. If a man doesn’t feel afraid to lose you and doesn’t correct his behavior to have you, then sweetie my love… you’re not the one.

All I’m saying is… I cannot just follow behind someone who doesn’t have direction, who doesn’t have goals, and who is not serious about life- have fun, yeah! But if you’re not serious about your goals and tryna progress I cannot and I refuse to be with you. It’s too much, however if someone really wanted to be with you they will do everything in their power to make sure you guys are good and you guys are stable and that you’re content with everything you guys got going on.

Conclusion- I will ride with my man regardless of what he has, however if he isn’t making the necessary steps to keep himself up, showing respect, taking responsibility for his actions, making the necessary steps to change and grow, and have decent manners, and wants something out of life, while tackling his goals- I can’t take him serious. A women naturally submits to a man in which she trust to lead.

My belief and at its core is- THE MAN SHOULD BE THE PROVIDER! He has to provide, he has to take care of the bills and the home problems such as plumbing, car issues, etc – don’t get me wrong a women can help go 50/50 if she wants, however that’s the mans job, he should be the sole provider.. a man doesn’t feel like a man if he can’t provide- right or right? All I’m saying is provide, protect, lead! The rest will follow naturally especially from the women— she will be happy to cook, happy to clean, happy to have sex, if she knows she’s appreciated and she has a man that’s willing and ready to lead, learn, and grow! Guys get mad at you because you don’t want to ride with them while they don’t have anything and when they get everything, they go to the women who only wants him for his money and spoils her and dog the chick who has been there, so if a women doesn’t wanna stay down then so what… a women is not obligated to stay down until you come up- she can! But she’s not obligated. That’s just my take on it. Hate it or love it-

Hope you guys enjoyed this read, like and comment and Join me next time if you can.

PEACE, LIGHT, AND LOVE. ✌🏽

It’s your winning season.

It’s your winning season my love. I know it feels like it’s over cause you feel like you keep losing but really this little detour is directing you to something greater. It’s trying to show you a lesson that you need to learn, or that you may need to see. Be patient, watch how things unfold for you. Everything works out on purpose for you. Are you paying attention to what is in front of you? Are you counting your blessings? Do you see your true self within? Do you see the love and light ahead waiting for you?

I know it feels like everything is out of your grasp but just be patient and trust in God and watch how things turn out for you. Just trust the process it’s gonna be okay and it’s gonna work out for you. I know in today’s society they try to turn you against God but I’m believing because even though I have been in my mess, I have come on the other side and so can you. It’s your winning season, are you choosing to win? Are you choosing to look deeper at the blessings in your life and the options you actually have? Or are you feeling defeated because of your lack in a situation? Or the difficulty you face when the shoe is on the other foot and you see the challenges that you must overcome to get to the other side. Don’t worry , stay encouraged it’s gonna work out and you’re gonna find your way. I believe in you just keep the faith and keep it pushing 😘😘❤️❤️

Stay encouraged.

Keep on pushing.

You got this.

Stay strong, my love.

PEACE ✌🏽💙

Open and honest

On social media I see a lot about relationships especially coming from girls/woman. Most of the time people get out of relationships not because they were treated bad, not because they were always going through something pertaining to cheating, but sometimes relationships don’t work out because you want better for the other person. I’m going to get a little personal so you guys can get where I am coming from. In my recent realationship I was treated like a queen, I was cared for, loved, and for the most part appreciated. We had our arguments and fights but it wasn’t anything we couldn’t work through. Let’s talk about my background a little bit, okay so while I was growing up my dad was not around, like ever- I never knew him, never saw his face, never hugged nor kissed him. Being that I didn’t know my dad and knowing he wasn’t there for me hurt me, my mom would bring guys around and I would cling to them like I would if I had known my dad.. they would always disappear though. Ps. I’m not looking for any sympathy. So as I grew up I saw how not having my father really affected me in a lot of different ways, I’m telling you about this because I feel like it played a role in my past relationship, now that you have a glimpse of my background I can proceed with my past relationship and why it didn’t work out.. not that you care.. lol. At the beginning of my relationship or when we started getting serious, my ex told me he had a son, at first I was mad because I asked him if he had a son and he told me NO, but we worked through it. I was like cool, we started working on our relationship, growing.. you know like building trust, talking about our childhood, being as open and honest about everything. About 6months in we end up getting our own place together, mind you we were together for about 3yrs, I’ve never met the son , never met the babies mom, NOTHING. I can count how many times I’ve actually seen him go over, or have him come over and see his son or even talk to him on the phone, ps this is not to bash him. He told me why it was like that but I honestly feel like he wasn’t that serious with me when it came to actually meeting his son and the mother. He told me I was disrespectful every time I brought up his son and how he wasn’t there, it really made me uneasy so I just left it alone. However every time we were about to break up , it was because I would say something about him being an absent father.. I guess it hurt him, but it also hurt me to know that his child couldn’t have all of his father, same as my childhood. I felt like it was my fault why his babymother and him couldn’t get alone, I felt like it was my fault why he couldn’t see his son. Being that my father wasn’t there I felt for little dude, it hurt my heart. And I know it was a complicated situation but I just couldn’t take it. Had he been in his sons life actively I wouldn’t have tripped and I sometimes feel bad because I feel like maybe I should’ve stuck around and loved him through it but it ate at my concious too bad. Really bad! I couldn’t take it and when I would say something about it, I became disrespectful, in his eyes. Me personally I didn’t want to be his priority, I feel like he was too busy tryna raise me when he should’ve been raising his son. Mind you he’s 9 1/2 yrs older than me, so he has plenty of experience and I do appreciate him, I still love him, and I did learn a lot from him, however it just didn’t work out. Maybe I was too childish? Maybe I should’ve looked at it from a different perspective but it still ate at me even when I tried. It hurts but I know what I’m doing is both a favor so we can grow and become better people for ourselves and in his case for his child. All I wanted him to do was put in a little more effort for his seed, but I guess I was the bad guy.

Anyways I say that to say this- just because a relationship didn’t work doesn’t mean it’s because there was cheating or lying, it could be because that person was in your life to help you grow and to understand yourself better. We both put in a lot of work with each other, we both put in the time. However we weren’t married and he wasn’t obligated to move when I say so. But all I am saying is don’t feel guilty for doing what feels right for you, don’t feel guilty for washing your hands and moving on. Don’t feel guilty about it, don’t put him down and don’t put yourself down! Move on with grace and with your head held high. Know that you’ve done everything you could. But it was only for a season. Take your loses and move on with what you’ve learned because it is never wasted time.

Peace, Love, and Happiness to you all.

Be strong and keep your head up!

💋❤️

A little positivity your way ❤️

I’ve learned to embrace the change, live in the now, let go, move on gracefully, no hate.. all love. Sometimes when we go through things we focus on all the bad things going on.. why doesn’t she/he love me anymore, why didn’t they hire me, or how come I don’t have a car right now? We tend to look at all the bad but forget all of the good going on, I’m alive, I’m healthy, I’m in my right mind, I have a roof over my head. When we look at things in a brighter sense, we invite more gifts into our lives. When we focus on what we have rather than what we’ve lost we move forward with more open doors. Sometimes people can make you feel guilty for doing for yourself they can make you feel tired and drained but when you move forward with a positive outlook you bring more positivity to yourself and more options. When I was younger I was very insecure, very guilible, a very attention seeker young lady, but as I grow older and become more mature, I realize my worth, I take care of my well being, I don’t stay hushed for no one, I’m more aware of a lot of things and so I say that to say this, it doesn’t matter where you are right now it’s about where you are headed. Things may feel hard but there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. If I can touch one person with my kind and encouraging words then I know I did my part. Don’t give up, your story doesn’t end here. Much love and peace to you 💛

👑Jayme 💛

Let that shit go!

Sometimes us women put ourselves through shit that we sometimes don’t need to put ourselves through. Sometimes we lower our standards and we let things get the best of us! We let a man get the best years of our lives only to wake up one day and realize we deserve better. Not every woman will agree that sometimes you just have to let that shit go! Have enough respect for yourself to know that you deserve fucking better! Us women settle and it’s not because we don’t believe we can do better but because we are natural nurturers so we nurture these men knowing they are undeserving! Some men don’t like for you to talk about certain things because it lowers and shatters their egos! They don’t want to hear the truth because the truth hurts. The truth sucks you in and fucks with your conscious. You can never call yourself a real man, if you’re not being real to your seed. Idgaf what nobody has to say there’s just no fucking excuse. I vow to never give my pussy up to a nigga that claims he’s a man but doesn’t take care of his responsibilities as a man. The hardest part of this is leaving the shit all behind , the hardest part is finding the strength to leave and walk away. Heartbreaks happen but shit it’s life! And although things don’t work out , it’s not the end of the world because you have to do for you! You have to stand up for things that are important to you! Don’t ever settle because it’s not worth it! God has so much more for you my beautiful Queen! 2019 is the year for me to realize to never settle and to not be afraid to ever let go when I need to. I’ve been taking loss after loss, but it’s giving me the strength to know my worth and it’s giving me the wisdom to understand how things really work in reality! These are great lessons for me! They will build character and they will build strength and wisdom! My light will shine despite what everything else says. Sometimes you have to let go and if it’s meant to be you’ll find your way back and if not you’ll just have to move on with your life.

✌🏽 💛 and growth